The importance of empathy in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples

The importance of empathy in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples

Emotionally Focused Therapy, or EFT, is an evidence-based type of couples therapy that was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson. EFT utilises attachment theory and the way we attach to others as a way for individuals and couples to better understand and improve their emotional connections.

EFT builds on the concept that our emotional bonds with others, especially in close intimate relationships, are key to our well-being…

Am I an Emotion Coach Parent or an Emotion Dismissing Parent?

Am I an Emotion Coach Parent or an Emotion Dismissing Parent?

Here is a common scenario: Little Oscar had his toys snatched away suddenly by his cousin. He came crying to his Dad to seek assistance, who told him, “Stop crying, it’s ok. It’s no big deal. You’ve got plenty of other toys to play with”. 

What we as parents can miss here is the opportunity to build problem solving skills and emotion regulation skills with our child. When we dismiss their feelings or experiences as ‘just a stolen toy’, we miss the chance to teach emotions and social skills. We may lose the opportunity to connect and guide them through their age-appropriate challenging situation. 

Contempt within Couple Communication

Contempt within Couple Communication

Contempt is criticism with an added layer of judgment, and a spiteful attitude towards your partner. Contempt is an insidious passive aggressive message of “I’m better than you” and “I don’t respect you”. When we speak with contempt we ridicule, mock, tease or taunt in an effort to make our partner feel unworthy and inferior to us. 

Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity: Addressing the challenges and steps involved in rebuilding trust after a breach, such as infidelity or betrayal.

Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity: Addressing the challenges and steps involved in rebuilding trust after a breach, such as infidelity or betrayal.

Is it possible to rebuild trust after infidelity? Is this relationship one worth saving? When a partner has been unfaithful, these are some of the questions the couple is left asking.  The answer? Yes, it is absolutely possible for couples to heal after betrayal. It isn’t an easy road and will take commitment and time, but we’ve seen many couples rebuild after a breach of trust. The Gottman Trust Revival Method outlines the 3 phases that couples progress through to repair their relationship. In this blog we’ll explore these 3 phases; Atone, Attune and Attach. 

The 6 Predictors of Divorce: Identifying Warning Signs in Your Relationship

The 6 Predictors of Divorce: Identifying Warning Signs in Your Relationship

Learn the 6 communication patterns that can predict divorce in your relationship and discover how to identify warning signs like harsh start-ups, the Four Horsemen, flooding, and failed repair attempts. Find hope and healing as we introduce the Seven Principles for successful marriages. Join our Gottman Institute workshop and build a strong foundation for a lasting, fulfilling marriage. Secure your spot now! Click for more information.

Understanding Gottman Methods and Why They Are at the Core of All We Do

Understanding Gottman Methods and Why They Are at the Core of All We Do


Discover the renowned Gottman Institute and their evidence-based Gottman Method for couples therapy. Built on four decades of groundbreaking research, this method emphasizes friendship, love, and understanding as the foundation of a strong partnership. The Sound Relationship House theory outlines different levels for building a healthy relationship, from deepening understanding to managing conflict and creating shared meaning. Motivating Marriages offers personalized recommendations and workshops based on the Gottman Method to help couples create lasting positive change.

Navigating the Transition to Parenthood as a Couple

Navigating the Transition to Parenthood as a Couple

Discover practical strategies and expert insights to navigate the challenges of transitioning to parenthood as a couple. In this blog we explore the key phases, from preparing for the arrival of your baby to prioritising your relationship during the first six months and beyond. Strengthen your bond, nurture emotional intimacy, and build a resilient connection with your partner on this incredible journey of parenthood.

Breaking Negative Patterns in Relationships (What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?

Breaking Negative Patterns in Relationships (What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based approach that helps couples improve their emotional bond and create a more secure attachment style in their relationship. EFT focuses on helping couples identify and express their underlying emotions, needs, and desires in a safe and supportive environment, and develop new patterns of communication and behaviours that promote a deeper emotional connection. In this blog we’ll dive into what you can expect during your EFT couples therapy, and in the future of your relationship.